Want to get to know your kids? I mean really understand how they think and feel about themselves and the world around them? If you’re trying to teach them good character, you probably want to know how their core values are guiding their thinking right? Well here are two super easy ways to get your kids to talk and share with you how they think and make judgments.
Create a Key Jar
This is a fun and easy way to ask your kids questions that reveal how they think about issues of character. Your child picks out a pre-written mystery question such as, “If you were an inventor, what would you invent?” and voila- you get to hear the types of issues they think about. How to create a Key Jar
Play “Would you Rather?”
If creating your own key jar sounds like work, here’s a super easy way to get your kids talking. Try the game Would You Rather/You Gotta Be Kidding.
The card set is cheap, portable and bound to give you insight into how your child thinks. It poses bizarre questions like, “Would you rather be all alone in a boat surrounded by sharks, or in the water holding on to a boat with other people but without sharks nearby?” Personally, I thought this was a no-brainer and was stunned to hear how vehemently my son disagreed with me. This revealed how he thought about caring and safety. More fun questions include “Would you rather live forever as a 13-year old or as a 65-year old?” Go ahead- ask at the dinner table tonight. You might just be surprised.
There are lots more questions that will reveal your child’s feelings about honesty, self-esteem, responsibility, and more- and most are pretty fun entertainment. The questions are Fear/Discomfort, Embarrassment, Ethics, and Random Stuff. Try it at the dinner table, in the car, or poolside. You might be surprised how much fun you have while learning which values guide your children the most.